Betrayal cuts to the core. It can even destroy our sense of trust in others, sense of trust in self. When we view betrayal as an attack upon self at the hands of another, we experience it from an emotive standpoint.   For it oft comes unexpected and from left field.

Betrayal oft leaves us blindsided and scratching our heads as to contemplating the reason why ….what did we do? We also feel recovery is unattainable.

Especially when the betrayal comes from a loved and trusted one.  Again, the question why compounded with one of how looms.

Betrayal from another is not a character reflection upon us, but one upon the individual enacting the betrayal. It is about that betraying individual’s issues. The recipient of the betrayal is merely a receptacle, for oft that person has mirrored a behavior that the person betraying another exhibits himself, yet one he detests. Or one he does not even recognize within.

In this instance, betrayal is about that individual’s need or rather lack of need and most of all about that person’s lack of respect for others and respect for oneself. Chances are the person betraying another is unaware of this. But it is a fact nonetheless.

For if you respect yourself and the human condition then you could never conduct an act of betrayal upon another.  To do so would be enacting a betrayal upon oneself. We are all connected and like it or not the butterfly principle is in effect. If a butterfly flaps its wings in Africa, it rains in Argentina.

Same for betrayal. If you harm another, then the energy of that very act harms you.  It’s all energy.

Again, why you ask? I know I have many a times.  How, you say, could betraying another harm oneself?  Explain.

It’s simple.

Enacting betrayal upon another means you seek, wish, or intend to injure that person—most likely emotionally.  By doing so you might temporarily inflate your sense of self or even justify the act and say—he deserved it…but when all the dust from the fallout settles, you have to answer to yourself. And if God forbid you cause grave damage to that person’s mental or physical or emotional well-being, then like it or not you get to carry that cross on your shoulders for the rest of your life.

But what about self-betrayal?  That happens as well.  Where does that fit into the equation?

Self-betrayal is a betrayal that is far worse than any betrayal another could ever inflict upon you. Because it is self-inflicted and indicative of self-destructive behavior and self-loathing. It is at its very core self-sabotaging. The only purpose self-betrayal serves–be it breaking a vow, a core principle and value, or as simple as breaking a goal–is that the only person harmed by that betrayal is well….you.

Again, the core impetus behind the prompt for the act is to inflict harm. The only reason one would inflict harm upon oneself (and same holds true for inflicting harm upon another) is that one feels one is not deserving of anything positive or good.

It is a fallacy that must be quelled.

Once that fallacy is quelled and replaced with the realization that we all have gifts to share and receive in this life, then we are able to embrace the reality that life is full of lessons. Life is also full of disappointments, yes,  but if you can take a leap of faith that you are loved by creation and that you have a specific purpose in this realm at this time, then you will be able to transcend all the betrayals tossed your way.

That includes self-betrayals. Once you can do that, then nothing can touch you and you can move into the realm of living life within the presence and faith of and in love.

That is when you discover what living is all about.


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