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Remember the days past when teachers punished students by sequestering them to the corner with the requisite dunce cap placed atop the head while classmates pointed fingers and snickered at their desks? Dunce was the politically correct term du jour for loser for those of you under 30.

There is nothing quite as debilitating to the spirit as being called a loser unless of course you are a winning contestant on the famed Reality Show The Biggest Loser.

Being called a loser, especially by one you love and trust, is not only insulting it is also a betrayal.

And when it is repeated stated it erodes not only your self-esteem but also your confidence and worse your hope in others and in yourself.

Fact is who hasn’t floundered, flopped or failed at one time or another?  It is how we grow and learn. Furthermore what constitutes being a loser? Does Webster have a definition replete with a picture; does Apple have an app?

Is the homeless vet who valiantly served his country only to return home with PTSD a loser? Is the woman who successfully raised her children to become well-adjusted adults but who held no career outside of the home and whose husband traded her in for a younger model a loser? Is the entrepreneur who launched numerous businesses but never had that one sure-fire patented concept that secured his legacy a loser?

If your answer is yes, then consider this:

  • Edgar Allen Poe who is the namesake for a coveted Mystery Writers Award died a pauper and was buried in an unmarked grave.
  • Albert Einstein our go-to-guy in terms of defining a genius was unable to tie his shoes, had speech difficulties and during his childhood it was contemplated by educators and doctors that he might  be mentally retarded.
  • JK Rowling the creator of one of if not the most popular fantasy movie franchises and book series was once a divorced mother living on welfare.
  • Abraham Lincoln, one of our most revered presidents, began his military service in the Black Hawk war as a Captain and left demoted to private.
  • Vincent Van Gogh sold only one painting during his lifetime and committed suicide with the belief that he was an untalented worthless soul.

So think twice before labeling one a failure, a loser.  

Appearances are not always as they seem. Deflect the negativity of the word’s connotation with the healing acronym posted above and most of all, believe it within the context of your perception of others and within the context of the perception of yourself.




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